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Sticky Label Again
How often do we see labels being attached to people within the lifestyle, He is a Dom or they are Switches, well it has to be said that no one can be compartmentalized into some neat little category just to suit those who feel a need to put labels on everything, to justify peoples actions or beliefs, There's usually more to a person than meets the eye if others would just take the time to look a little bit deeper. There's also no way to easily describe any one in a few neat and tidy catch phrases. Besides, labels are merely a form of prejudgment, a way to make it easier to discriminate. After all, it's much easier to dismiss a description than it is to write a person out of your life.If you insist on labels, you might find that most people are a study in opposites. For example, some of the terms used to describe submissives are bitch or tart, does that mean that ever submissive person falls into or under the same category, i dont think so, we are all as different as different can be, a bit like DNA or finger print, no two sets are alike, its an impossibility, the same has to be said for each and every human being, submissive or not. Unique, we all have something different about us, be it the size of our nose or the mole on the left shoulder, the same also applys to how each person thinks and its their thinking that make them so very different to the next person on the list.
Labelling came be blamed for many misconceptions, the general one is that if you are submissive, you are a doormat, with no thought process of your own. Lets break that idea here and now... Are subs stupid? No more than anyone else, like most people they have their moments. On the other hand, many people who have submissive tendencies also have high powered, intellectually stimulating careers, manage their household and lives without to many difficulties, so where does the label that subs are stupid come from, because the majority are not.
Let's see, submissive is another label. Most will have their own opinions, many are not afraid to speak their mind. They don't require anyone to do their thinking for them and are quite capable of managing on their own. They can be submissive without being a doormat. Yet others find out they have a submissive side and expect them to drop to their knees, they expect them to adopt their philosophies, they expect immediate attention and adoration. Well wait justa minute, it doesn't work that way .
It's so hard to fit yourself in a corner when you are constantly evolving and changing. What may fit one day doesn't necessarily fit the next day, let alone the next hour. And the way one person sees you isn't always the same way someone else sees you, or you see yourself. So how many potential labels can we collect during a lifetime? All of them would be true, to some extent, but none of them would really give someone an idea of what you really are. Wouldnt it be better not add a sticky label to anyone and just see them for who and what they are.
© D/s seekers 2004