Collaring
Ceremony: General Guidelines
Steps to get things on their way
1. Where will the ceremony take place......real life: outside, hall, someones house, rented dungeon
online: in your regular room , private locked room with invites only, open private room with a general invite to all.
2. Will You officiate the Ceremony or will Someone else?? If Someone else is You best ask Her/Him ASAP. It takes alot of preparation to do an online or real life collaring. Will you have a collar bearer?
3. Will the Ceremony be Traditional, Comtempory, New Age or something You conjured up??
4. Will the Ceremony have elements ? If so, what ones? how many? what will they symbolize? Wheere will they be? Who will bring them to the Ceremony and to the Person Officiating?
5. Will you both have someone stand with you? Will someone bring the submissive to the Dominant?
6. Will you have music? what song? will all have it that are in attendance?
7. What will you both wear? Leather? silks? satin? suit? Tuxedo? Long formal gown? or what exactly? what about your hair? make up? will the submissive carry anything?
8. Do you want the submissive to wear any jewerly?
9. What time of day will it be? will there be candles ? insense? lights? what will the room look like? What will the Dominants and submissives attending sit upon?
Please Note: The forementioned guidelines are simply that. They are not the beall endall but suggestions of things to think about. As each person is different as well as relationships so are Collaring Ceremonies. Take your time and think, plan , dream and have the Ceremony you want, "smiles"
There are many different types of ceremonies and if you look online I am sure you will find examples. If you can not ask Dominants who have collared submissives if they have a copy of theirs or can tell you what it was like if it happened real life.
There are many things you can do but I suggest that you think hard and make it special to you two not anyone else or do what someone else did.
Guidelines to the Progression of events
1. The Person who is Officiating the Ceremony arrives and welcomes all .......IF online this is when all are asked to change to: Dominants Bold Black and submissives unbold black, No avators except those involved in the Ceremony, Do not play sounds during it either.
2. The Dominant who is Collaring the submissive enters by Her/Himself or with a friend and takes Her/His(s) Place.
3. Attendants come in one at a time and if carrying any Elements they are brought to the Priest/ess and then take thier place(s).
4. The submissive comes either 1. alone or 2. with either a Dominant Friend or a submissive friend and goes to the Dominant
5. They join as they have decided : holding hands , submissive kneeling at Dominants feet, whatever you have decided, Think about will your submissive kneel to the Priest/ess first and then go to You and will You bow or curtsey? Yes I know alot of things to decide but it is a BIG Commitment
6. The Ceremony takes place how it was planned by the Parties Involved
example: Priest/ess Talks of the meaning of the Collar
* you both tell of your heart and your intentions to one another
* The Priest/ess talks of The Power Exchange and the deep meaning of it
* you both exchange vows: You as the Dominant and she/he as the sub/slave
* The Collar is handed to the Priest/ess and talk of it being as strong of Leather as you both intend your Love and Commitment to be
* The Collar is passed to the Dominant
* If not already the submissive Kneels
* Collar is placed on her/his neck
* Will You also give a collar she/he will wear 24/7?
* The sub is named( mostly for online) but does know some who call their r/l submissive a new name.
* if online the submissive goes gets new name and returns to their Owner and (personally I think she/he should kneel)
* Congrats and Thanks you's are given!!!Depending on the situation a Reception may follow.....Just know you can make it as simple as you want or as elaborate.
Lastly on a more personal note I would like to encourage all to ensure you have a Limits List done by both and discussed, safe call plans made and alot of time spent before you decide to one, offer Your collar and Two, for one to accept one.
If you are in Love today and tomorrow and next week
Then hold steadfast to that Love and know it shall endure summers and winters together and that Time is the Teller of All Stories and to Be Patient a Collar is a BIG Commitment. If you are worried He//She will find another or visa versa then let them because they are not for You/you. It is not a race and if the other can not take the time and smell the roses along the Journey then let them go because in the long run it wont work. I understand that sometimes you want to carpe diem, seize the day!!!! but be careful and take your time.
Take Care and Warmest Blessings to all